Handing over the Reins
"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands" (1 Peter 3:1a).
Our homeschooling day had been long and filled with interruptions. My toddlers had been cranky, and phone calls about organizing activities at church had put us behind schedule in our schoolwork. Herding my children from one subject to the next as quickly as possible, I felt like a trail boss blazing through our schoolwork. However, as the sun began to set, I realized we weren't going to finish our lessons for the day. Finding the best stopping point in our studies, I told my children to quickly put away their workbooks. My husband would soon be home from work, and it was time to pull out the chuck wagon to feed all my hungry hands.
Delegating kitchen responsibilities to my older children, we began to prepare supper. A short time later, my husband arrived, and he also helped in the preparations by setting the table. As he completed the chore, I continued to give more instructions to him and the children with the same trail boss attitude I had been using all day. Although my husband gladly helped with the assignments, I sensed a problem in his response to my commands. Forgetting to hand over the reins to our home, I realized I had been bossing my husband just like my children.
Although homeschooling husbands and wives work as a team, husbands must be allowed the opportunity to assume the leadership role in the family. Unfortunately, after being in charge of the home and the children all day, many homeschooling moms have difficulty in transferring that responsibility. In fact, our independent spirit and self-sufficient ways tend to leave Dad out of the homeschooling picture altogether. If you find yourself making the same mistake as me and not allowing your husband to lead, perhaps it's time to remember God's exhortation in Ephesians 5:22-23a: "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church."
Lord, I know You've designed the home to work according to Your plan. Please, show me how to work together with my husband when homeschooling and transfer the leadership of our family to him once he is home. In Jesus' name, Amen.